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How to express yourself?
Shaista Ansari
Obviously you can't present yourself normally when you're worried about what others think of you. First, one must be free of that thought. What does it matter what other people think of you? Nobody has time to reflect on you. Simply be free of whatever they may think of you. Live your life freely anRead more
Obviously you can’t present yourself normally when you’re worried about what others think of you. First, one must be free of that thought. What does it matter what other people think of you? Nobody has time to reflect on you. Simply be free of whatever they may think of you. Live your life freely and naturally, regardless of what others say.
See lessThe most important thing to remember is that what we see outside and in others is solely our projection. Others will automatically stop thinking about your natural self the day you stop worrying about what others may say. So, first and foremost, free yourself from concerns about the way you are; others will follow you.
How to be Strong
Shaista Ansari
The secret to success is having strong mental faculties. While those with lower degrees of mental toughness may give up on their goals, those with higher levels can overcome these challenges and pave the way to success. To develop mental toughness, try the following: 1. Develop a positive outlook: SRead more
The secret to success is having strong mental faculties. While those with lower degrees of mental toughness may give up on their goals, those with higher levels can overcome these challenges and pave the way to success.
To develop mental toughness, try the following:
1. Develop a positive outlook: Sometimes, developing mental toughness is more about storing your strength for the perfect jobs than it is about developing new strength. a strong, optimistic outlook in day-to-day activities.
2. Let Go of Self-Limiting Beliefs: As soon as you see a self-limiting idea arising in your head, immediately dispel it by reminding yourself that it is untrue. Follow this up with some positive affirmations, such as, “I am smart enough; I may just need to…”
3. Ditch the Dwelling: The next time something awful occurs, it’s crucial to allow yourself to experience your sadness and aggravation while also making an effort to spend less time thinking about it. The sooner you can put your attention on the advantages and get past the issue, the sooner you can resume living a successful life.
4. Link Up With Your Goal: Pursuing an objective or a task without a clear sense of motivation is one of the largest drains on your mental capacity. We frequently make objectives not because they will be achieved but because we appreciate the notion behind them. We cannot intrinsically drive ourselves to accomplish our most difficult goals without connecting to our why.
5. Discover Your Own Motivation: Our inner desire is what drives us intrinsically.
6. Find Strength in Unity:
The final aspect of developing mental toughness is embracing the idea that you’re not in this alone. Numerous additional individuals who were providing assistance, mentoring, direction, and encouragement were standing behind each and every one of these outstanding people.
7. Learn to Get Back Up After Failures:
See lessIt’s difficult to develop mental toughness and a strong mindset. Obstacles, setbacks, and failure are inevitable, as everybody who has ever achieved enormous success is aware of.
Does pain motivate us?
Shaista Ansari
Motivation is overrated. Motivation is fleeting, a quick fix that may come or not. Discipline is everything. Discipline to get up in the morning, to get ready, to start a day and do what you have to do for the next hours of your life. To do all of it, day after day after day. Discipline makes you doRead more
Motivation is overrated. Motivation is fleeting, a quick fix that may come or not.
Discipline is everything. Discipline to get up in the morning, to get ready, to start a day and do what you have to do for the next hours of your life. To do all of it, day after day after day. Discipline makes you do that.
Pain can be physical and emotional. It takes a toll on the body and the body can only do so much.
See lessWhat is the one thing you are most proud of?
Shaista Ansari
nice move....... you did right thing and you should be truly proud of that
nice move……. you did right thing and you should be truly proud of that
See lessWhy?
Shaista Ansari
Well, this question seems complicated. There may be many reasons why they would do that. As we don't know the previous history and characteristics of those persons, no one can tell the exact reason. One possibility is, those persons are not really friends with the person who is going to kill himselfRead more
Well, this question seems complicated. There may be many reasons why they would do that. As we don’t know the previous history and characteristics of those persons, no one can tell the exact reason. One possibility is, those persons are not really friends with the person who is going to kill himself. They might be just pretending of doing so or they might really not in good terms.
Another possibility is those persons really might not know that he is gonna kill himself and they are completely unaware of the fact.
There can be endless possibilities, so just go and talk to them openly about all situations as communication is the true key to resolving all issues. Your issue is not so complicated but if all of you sit together and discuss it, things will eventually sort out.
I hope your friend don’t take any such step and all things resolve in a proper manner.
See lessAll the best and take care.
Are you frightened?
Shaista Ansari
please check this video, its good to watch this. Please go to the question detail page by clicking on heading and then check the link. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3yQj-Mscn7k
please check this video, its good to watch this. Please go to the question detail page by clicking on heading and then check the link.
See lessAre you frightened?
Shaista Ansari
People are being influenced by one another and letting emotions dictate their behavior, instead of taking a rational approach. Measures are being taken that are unprecedented in recent history: schools are closing, sports teams aren’t playing, vacations are canceled, family gatherings rescheduled. ARead more
People are being influenced by one another and letting emotions dictate their behavior, instead of taking a rational approach.
Measures are being taken that are unprecedented in recent history: schools are closing, sports teams aren’t playing, vacations are canceled, family gatherings rescheduled. Although these preventative actions are for good reason, they can also partly explain why people are getting worried.
“These are appropriate things to do, but it’s understandably frightening because nothing like this has happened in our lifetime,” says Dr. Lanzisera. “It’s human to be anxious. At the same time, there are lots of reasons not to be scared. Be reasonable and be cautious, but don’t be frightened.”
Here, he shares how to keep calm amid a wave of panic.
Stay away from social media and up-to-the-minute news. “What makes the news? Worst-case stories,” Dr. Lanzisera says. “What we don’t hear about—at least not with the graphicness of the horror stories — is the majority of people who recover without any particular intervention. When you’re consumed by the news, mindless terror takes over. Focusing on horror stories fuels anxiety and fear.” Keep yourself informed — check for factual updates on the virus from trusted sources like the Centers for Disease Control (CDC)—but refrain from obsessive Googling.
Know the facts. The WHO has labeled COVID-19 as a pandemic, but that doesn’t mean you need to freak out. A pandemic doesn’t describe the deadliness of an illness, but how widespread it is. As of now, 80% of people infected experience mild, cold and flu-like symptoms. Also, according to the CDC, COVID-19 is thought to be a droplet disease, meaning it spreads from person to person via respiratory droplets, like when someone coughs or sneezes. Constructive precautions to take include staying away from large crowds, disinfecting surfaces, and washing your hands frequently.
Actively remind yourself of reasons not to worry. “There are questions we use to cope with anxiety,” Dr. Lanzisera says. “Ask yourself: what are all of the reasons I should feel safe? What are all of the things I am doing to make a bad outcome less likely? Why should I not be afraid?” Reassure yourself with steps you’re taking recommended by the CDC like washing your hands and staying away from concerts and large venues. Counter your fear and be deliberate in your defense, he says.
Create a new routine. If you’re stuck at home with the kids, that doesn’t mean you can’t go outside. Take a walk, go for a bike ride. Staying cooped up inside the house isn’t good for you, Dr. Lanzisera says. “Don’t be afraid to do things that are low-contact, enjoyable, and healthful,” he says.
Occupy your mind with relaxing hobbies. Whether you play the piano, read a book, paint, play a board game or meditate, all of these activities can help calm your mind and prevent you from reaching for your phone or computer and falling into a downward spiral of despair.
Live alone? Call a friend. Luckily, we live in a tech age that allows us to connect with friends, even while stuck at home by ourselves. Whether on the phone or via Skype, talking to people has been proven to reduce depression and feelings of anxiousness. (But try not to talk all about the coronavirus!)
If you have severe anxiety, seek help from a specialist. If you have a history of anxiety, you might need additional help. Dr. Lanzisera recommends talking to a professional who can further help you deal with your fears head-on.
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Shaista Ansari
Hi friend, Only those people can understand your pain and worry who are in the same situation as you, who are looking for a life partner for a long time. That time we have so many doubts and uncertainty revolves around our minds. If you think positively, you may consider yourself lucky as you did noRead more
Hi friend,
Only those people can understand your pain and worry who are in the same situation as you, who are looking for a life partner for a long time. That time we have so many doubts and uncertainty revolves around our minds. If you think positively, you may consider yourself lucky as you did not have to face any breakups and depressions because of that. You saved yourself from possibilities of getting cheated, one-sided love, etc. Now is the right time to get married as your age is also appropriate for marriage. At this age, you may not consider yourself fit for making girlfriends, time passes, etc.
As this is the right time to get married, arrange marriage option is also good for you. Risk will always be there in arrange marriage. To minimize the risk you can take some time like 4-5 months to understand the other person. You can talk, meet, discuss your opinions and likes dislikes in that period. In this way, less risk will be there. You can check how much compatibility is there.
Definitely, it’s a tedious task to search on matrimonial sites but it’s worth it if you get a good life partner. sometimes it takes years to get a good life partner. have patience and try your best. You can also go for your parent’s advice or if they have someone in their mind.
Just call and talk for few days, you will get a hint in few hours of talking also.
Sometimes God gives a very good partner when there is too much struggle in finding one.
There are so many cases, where people spent years in the struggle to find a suitable match and ultimately they got a very good match.
Don’t lose hope and keep trying and searching. Definitely, you will get the best match.
All the best for your happy and prosperous life.
See lessi don’t know what’s happening
Shaista Ansari
Hi friend, Thanks for posting your issues in this forum. As you described, it seems a deep-rooted cause since your childhood. Because of that, again and again, you are facing the same kind of problems. Your symptoms are like a sort of depression only, which is catching you again and again. Also as yRead more
Hi friend,
Thanks for posting your issues in this forum. As you described, it seems a deep-rooted cause since your childhood. Because of that, again and again, you are facing the same kind of problems. Your symptoms are like a sort of depression only, which is catching you again and again. Also as you mentioned that you are an introvert and feel awkward in social interactions, there might be a social anxiety issue. There is a lack of self-worth, motivation, confidence, self-love inside you.
It would be best if you take counseling sessions with good therapists/counselors as there are deep-rooted issues inside you that need to be cured as soon as possible. It’s really important to cure the issues while they are small because, in the long run, these things may go worse and out of control.
There are some good websites where you can take online sessions.
https://yourdost.com/
https://www.manastha.com/
https://www.cure.fit/mind/therapy
and many more, just Google.
Apart from that, it’s really important to get out of your comfort zone, increase your will power and motivate yourself every day. Try to take small steps, I know it’s hard for you, but still, be brave, don’t listen to your heart, just get up and start taking classes, focus on your studies. Try to talk to your friends and parents about your issues. At least talk to your parents in detail and discuss all these issues with them. They will understand definitely.
Try to write a journal about your thoughts. You will feel relaxed after doing that.
Watch motivational videos on youtube, pick up some hobby and start working on that daily.
Try to do physical exercise daily if possible like walking, jogging, stretching, running or any other kind of exercise for at least 15 mins daily. Start with 5 mins if you can get enough motivation to do it.
It’s really important to spend your time in natural surroundings. Go to any park or field, sit quietly, and observe nature.
In this condition, Yoga and meditation are really helpful. Take the help of youtube in learning yoga and meditation.
I will certainly recommend some meditations and affirmations to you which you should do as soon as you wake up. If you push yourself and do these regularly, you will definitely get results. i know it’s hard to find the motivation to do all these things.
Affirmations and guided meditations can be done anytime in a day. Preferably morning time and at the time of sleeping. Use headphones for both.
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCm1PrIQ1VmHHXAc8UlZTS9Q
this is a very good youtube channel. The name is Rising higher.
other videos:
You can also try hypnotherapy with a good therapist.
Wishing you all the best and a healthy future.
TC…..
See lessBeing a very introverted person, very sensitive, can’t tolerate the rudeness of other people
Shaista Ansari
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