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Shaista Ansari
Well, this question seems complicated. There may be many reasons why they would do that. As we don't know the previous history and characteristics of those persons, no one can tell the exact reason. One possibility is, those persons are not really friends with the person who is going to kill himselfRead more
Well, this question seems complicated. There may be many reasons why they would do that. As we don’t know the previous history and characteristics of those persons, no one can tell the exact reason. One possibility is, those persons are not really friends with the person who is going to kill himself. They might be just pretending of doing so or they might really not in good terms.
Another possibility is those persons really might not know that he is gonna kill himself and they are completely unaware of the fact.
There can be endless possibilities, so just go and talk to them openly about all situations as communication is the true key to resolving all issues. Your issue is not so complicated but if all of you sit together and discuss it, things will eventually sort out.
I hope your friend don’t take any such step and all things resolve in a proper manner.
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What is the one thing you are most proud of?
Idk_man
The thing I’m most proud of getting my friend help. I’m sure they will hate me when they find out it was me but… I couldn’t have lived with myself if I didn’t.
The thing I’m most proud of getting my friend help. I’m sure they will hate me when they find out it was me but… I couldn’t have lived with myself if I didn’t.
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Shaista Ansari
People are being influenced by one another and letting emotions dictate their behavior, instead of taking a rational approach. Measures are being taken that are unprecedented in recent history: schools are closing, sports teams aren’t playing, vacations are canceled, family gatherings rescheduled. ARead more
People are being influenced by one another and letting emotions dictate their behavior, instead of taking a rational approach.
Measures are being taken that are unprecedented in recent history: schools are closing, sports teams aren’t playing, vacations are canceled, family gatherings rescheduled. Although these preventative actions are for good reason, they can also partly explain why people are getting worried.
“These are appropriate things to do, but it’s understandably frightening because nothing like this has happened in our lifetime,” says Dr. Lanzisera. “It’s human to be anxious. At the same time, there are lots of reasons not to be scared. Be reasonable and be cautious, but don’t be frightened.”
Here, he shares how to keep calm amid a wave of panic.
Stay away from social media and up-to-the-minute news. “What makes the news? Worst-case stories,” Dr. Lanzisera says. “What we don’t hear about—at least not with the graphicness of the horror stories — is the majority of people who recover without any particular intervention. When you’re consumed by the news, mindless terror takes over. Focusing on horror stories fuels anxiety and fear.” Keep yourself informed — check for factual updates on the virus from trusted sources like the Centers for Disease Control (CDC)—but refrain from obsessive Googling.
Know the facts. The WHO has labeled COVID-19 as a pandemic, but that doesn’t mean you need to freak out. A pandemic doesn’t describe the deadliness of an illness, but how widespread it is. As of now, 80% of people infected experience mild, cold and flu-like symptoms. Also, according to the CDC, COVID-19 is thought to be a droplet disease, meaning it spreads from person to person via respiratory droplets, like when someone coughs or sneezes. Constructive precautions to take include staying away from large crowds, disinfecting surfaces, and washing your hands frequently.
Actively remind yourself of reasons not to worry. “There are questions we use to cope with anxiety,” Dr. Lanzisera says. “Ask yourself: what are all of the reasons I should feel safe? What are all of the things I am doing to make a bad outcome less likely? Why should I not be afraid?” Reassure yourself with steps you’re taking recommended by the CDC like washing your hands and staying away from concerts and large venues. Counter your fear and be deliberate in your defense, he says.
Create a new routine. If you’re stuck at home with the kids, that doesn’t mean you can’t go outside. Take a walk, go for a bike ride. Staying cooped up inside the house isn’t good for you, Dr. Lanzisera says. “Don’t be afraid to do things that are low-contact, enjoyable, and healthful,” he says.
Occupy your mind with relaxing hobbies. Whether you play the piano, read a book, paint, play a board game or meditate, all of these activities can help calm your mind and prevent you from reaching for your phone or computer and falling into a downward spiral of despair.
Live alone? Call a friend. Luckily, we live in a tech age that allows us to connect with friends, even while stuck at home by ourselves. Whether on the phone or via Skype, talking to people has been proven to reduce depression and feelings of anxiousness. (But try not to talk all about the coronavirus!)
If you have severe anxiety, seek help from a specialist. If you have a history of anxiety, you might need additional help. Dr. Lanzisera recommends talking to a professional who can further help you deal with your fears head-on.
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Shaista Ansari
Hi friend, Only those people can understand your pain and worry who are in the same situation as you, who are looking for a life partner for a long time. That time we have so many doubts and uncertainty revolves around our minds. If you think positively, you may consider yourself lucky as you did noRead more
Hi friend,
Only those people can understand your pain and worry who are in the same situation as you, who are looking for a life partner for a long time. That time we have so many doubts and uncertainty revolves around our minds. If you think positively, you may consider yourself lucky as you did not have to face any breakups and depressions because of that. You saved yourself from possibilities of getting cheated, one-sided love, etc. Now is the right time to get married as your age is also appropriate for marriage. At this age, you may not consider yourself fit for making girlfriends, time passes, etc.
As this is the right time to get married, arrange marriage option is also good for you. Risk will always be there in arrange marriage. To minimize the risk you can take some time like 4-5 months to understand the other person. You can talk, meet, discuss your opinions and likes dislikes in that period. In this way, less risk will be there. You can check how much compatibility is there.
Definitely, it’s a tedious task to search on matrimonial sites but it’s worth it if you get a good life partner. sometimes it takes years to get a good life partner. have patience and try your best. You can also go for your parent’s advice or if they have someone in their mind.
Just call and talk for few days, you will get a hint in few hours of talking also.
Sometimes God gives a very good partner when there is too much struggle in finding one.
There are so many cases, where people spent years in the struggle to find a suitable match and ultimately they got a very good match.
Don’t lose hope and keep trying and searching. Definitely, you will get the best match.
All the best for your happy and prosperous life.
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Shaista Ansari
Hi friend, Thanks for posting your issues in this forum. As you described, it seems a deep-rooted cause since your childhood. Because of that, again and again, you are facing the same kind of problems. Your symptoms are like a sort of depression only, which is catching you again and again. Also as yRead more
Hi friend,
Thanks for posting your issues in this forum. As you described, it seems a deep-rooted cause since your childhood. Because of that, again and again, you are facing the same kind of problems. Your symptoms are like a sort of depression only, which is catching you again and again. Also as you mentioned that you are an introvert and feel awkward in social interactions, there might be a social anxiety issue. There is a lack of self-worth, motivation, confidence, self-love inside you.
It would be best if you take counseling sessions with good therapists/counselors as there are deep-rooted issues inside you that need to be cured as soon as possible. It’s really important to cure the issues while they are small because, in the long run, these things may go worse and out of control.
There are some good websites where you can take online sessions.
https://yourdost.com/
https://www.manastha.com/
https://www.cure.fit/mind/therapy
and many more, just Google.
Apart from that, it’s really important to get out of your comfort zone, increase your will power and motivate yourself every day. Try to take small steps, I know it’s hard for you, but still, be brave, don’t listen to your heart, just get up and start taking classes, focus on your studies. Try to talk to your friends and parents about your issues. At least talk to your parents in detail and discuss all these issues with them. They will understand definitely.
Try to write a journal about your thoughts. You will feel relaxed after doing that.
Watch motivational videos on youtube, pick up some hobby and start working on that daily.
Try to do physical exercise daily if possible like walking, jogging, stretching, running or any other kind of exercise for at least 15 mins daily. Start with 5 mins if you can get enough motivation to do it.
It’s really important to spend your time in natural surroundings. Go to any park or field, sit quietly, and observe nature.
In this condition, Yoga and meditation are really helpful. Take the help of youtube in learning yoga and meditation.
I will certainly recommend some meditations and affirmations to you which you should do as soon as you wake up. If you push yourself and do these regularly, you will definitely get results. i know it’s hard to find the motivation to do all these things.
Affirmations and guided meditations can be done anytime in a day. Preferably morning time and at the time of sleeping. Use headphones for both.
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCm1PrIQ1VmHHXAc8UlZTS9Q
this is a very good youtube channel. The name is Rising higher.
other videos:
You can also try hypnotherapy with a good therapist.
Wishing you all the best and a healthy future.
TC…..
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Shaista Ansari
Hi dear, It's really a heartbreaking incident of your life. Sometimes we face this kind of challenges, mental trauma in our life and feels that things are out of control in our life. Well, nobody can give a perfect solution to your problem as we have limited knowledge as provided by you. We can onlyRead more
Hi dear,
It’s really a heartbreaking incident of your life. Sometimes we face this kind of challenges, mental trauma in our life and feels that things are out of control in our life. Well, nobody can give a perfect solution to your problem as we have limited knowledge as provided by you. We can only suggest or advise you but you only have to decide about your future and actions.
Sometimes we think that things are getting out of control in our lives and we are the biggest victims. We ask this question to ourselves-“Why this is happening to me? why me……?”
It’s for your own good that he broke up with you as you know that he is not a good person.
It’s time for you to focus on your entrance exams, forget about the past, forget that person. Assume he would have never existed in your life. It’s difficult to forget and move on but you have to do this for your bright future.
People follow success and if you would be successful, the whole world will come to talk to you.
You don’t have to worry about his current relationship if their parents don’t have any issue, then let them decide. It should not bother you. You only can convey your message to the young girl about your ex characteristics. Its up to her to take your suggestions or not. Let her parents decide about her future.
Whatever happened is an indicator of your bright future. God sent you a reminder that it’s time to move on in your life and achieve your goals. Clear entrance exams confidently, you will get other great persons in your life at right time. This is not the right time to be involved in such relationships when your career is at stake.
For changing your mood and forget about past experiences, change your routine. Devote some time in practicing meditation, affirmations in the morning. Go to the gym, take a walk in a natural place, visit an orphanage, feed people, develop your hobbies. Get involved in things which you like the most.
I will provide links to some videos, please check them and follow them, you will get results faster.
Try to put on headphones and listen to guided meditations when you are going to sleep, it will help you to achieve mental peace and forgetting painful memories.
for forgetting past relationship try this:
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Roshan
Your professional life, just like your personal life, is a work in progress. When you start a job, it's all new and exciting. You may find yourself easily overlooking imperfections and dismissing signs that call this new arrangement into question. With time, the job that once seemed so perfect may lRead more
Your professional life, just like your personal life, is a work in progress. When you start a job, it’s all new and exciting. You may find yourself easily overlooking imperfections and dismissing signs that call this new arrangement into question.
With time, the job that once seemed so perfect may lose its luster. You may become complacent, disinterested, or irked by little things you used to find endearing or not even notice. You may begin to wonder if the grass is greener on the other side.
Sometimes the answer is obvious. Your new boss could be a jerk, or maybe you burned out by staying late or skipping lunch every day. For some, however, disillusionment grew slowly over time, in which case you’re not really sure what caused you to disconnect from work.
“When you can identify the parts of your job that are causing you grief, it makes it easier to come up with a plan to address the issues, either with individuals or with yourself,”
If you have lost interest in your daily work or feel stagnant, it may be a sign that you are ready to take on new tasks or more responsibilities.
This would be the time to talk about steps for a promotion or role expansion with your manager.
You don’t have to love all your co-workers, but you should make an effort to become friends with at least one or two.
“There tends to be a high correlation between work fatigue or losing interest in your work and isolation and loneliness,” said Eli Howayeck, career coach and founder and CEO of Crafted Career Concepts.
– Sometimes a bit of friendly human contact is all we need to carry us forward.
– A mentor can provide you with honest feedback and guidance and help get you back on track when you are floundering. Seek to connect with someone in your workplace who performs well, is admired and respected by the leadership and employees alike, and is willing to invest time in helping you grow professionally.
– Break out of your routine and try making changes, small as they may be, to the way you approach your day. If you rarely leave your desk, force yourself to go outside and take a 10-minute walk.
– Take advantage of wellness programs or other opportunities for personal enrichment within the work setting to offset the daily grind.
– Job burnout is one of the main reasons people fall out of love with their work.
Being overworked, having stressful projects, and not taking enough time for themselves to rest and recover can quickly lead to feelings of resentment and contempt toward their job.
Taking time off for a trip or even a staycation, where you completely unwind and unplug from the day-to-day of the office, is going to have huge, rejuvenating benefits
– If you find yourself feeling down at work, slip on your headphones, hit Play, and immerse yourself in your favorite tunes.
– Take the time and effort to create a rich life outside the workplace. This will look different for every person. For some, it may be about cultivating hobbies, while others will focus on building community. Regardless of what you choose to do, when you strengthen your sense of self and become happier with who you are as a person, the joy you create will inevitably trickle into your work life.
– If you’ve tried everything and you are still miserable, “I won’t always work here.” You may have to stay in your current job for the time being, but you can also begin actively planning for your future. This can include researching other positions in or outside your company, networking, updating your resume, and furthering your education to increase your skills. All these steps position you to take a leap into a new role when you’re ready.
At the end, I want to say that find out your true passion and purpose of life, the work which you enjoy most or something which makes others happy. You will be truly blessed when you start giving happiness to others, give something back to society: that is priceless feeling when you wipe someone tears, feed a hungry or make someone laugh.
All the best for your future life.
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