My parents are in their 60s and it really sucks seeing them old. My dad has been an alcoholic ever since I was little. But now as he grows old he’s very emotionally sensitive. Even if a minor thing happens he will take it too seriously and drink like there is no tomorrow and doesn’t eat anything at all. It’s been two days he has been excessively drinking and not eating much giving my mom a hard time. He has already experienced a heart attack twice and is taking medications for the same. I know he will die pretty soon but the weird silence in the house is just super depressing and killing me not wanting to do any work. I am in my 20s working towards my life and career but it’s hard to concentrate on anything when things are like this at home. Sometimes I wish I was born to some other family or was not born at all because it really questions my own existence. I can’t talk much to him to leave alcohol or leave thinking because he himself is a grown adult and I don’t have a say in anything.
Am I thinking too much?
You may be subject to a curfew, chores, college, and responsibilities. And you’re probably going to get punished if you don’t keep them, right? Parents are no exception. When a parent refuses to “adult,” natural consequences should follow. They lose jobs, waste money, become enraged, and take it out on those around them. They frequently attempt to force the rest of their family to do the work or pay the price. They will point the finger at everyone else for their problems. They will also blame their drinking on others. The trick is to recognize this pattern of behavior and refuse to play the mind games that alcoholics engage in.
There is hope, but you cannot achieve it.Al-Anon is a support group for alcoholics’ families and friends (also, AlaTeen). It is widespread. A meeting near you can be found. It is not “Alcoholics Anonymous,” which is for people who are alcoholics. It is intended for those who have been impacted by the drinking of others. Meetings and assistance are always provided at no cost. You will gain valuable new skills and be able to alter your behavior around the alcoholic. You can also look up resources online to learn how to stop the alcoholic from yanking your family around. It is not simple. However, if you do nothing, the situation will worsen. Al-Anon will teach your entire family how to do this. Your father will have to make a decision because He will be very uncomfortable if you change your behavior to stop accommodating him. you should not lose hope. All the best.